But what if friction wasn't as bad as we made it? For example, you can't start a fire without friction. Every Survivor fan knows the cardinal rule... "No fire, no life." You can't masterfully sand craft an unfinished piece of wood into a beautiful table without friction. In a similar way, friction in manageable doses actually can be helpful in how we navigate our lives. What if friction was vital to our growth and development? And instead of avoiding friction, what if we embraced it as part of the process of self-discovery and growth.
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
- C.S. Lewis
Giants are anything around us that scare us, leave us insecure or ashamed. Giants surround us. The fear of death, the fear of cancer, the fear of losing your job, or even the current economy. Giants are scary, and sometimes it's easier to ignore them.
But the greatest and scariest giants we face aren't out there, there inside of us. The giants you and I must reckon with are the ones that look at us through the mirror. The voices that say, "You aren't good enough" "You're worthless" "You're a fool" "You're a bad mom" "You're a bad son" haunt us and even ruin us if we let them.
The challenge, however, is that we choose to ignore them rather than facing them head on. A few days ago I shared a quote by Malcolm Gladwell. He says, "Courage is not something that you already have that makes you brave when the tough times start. Courage is what you earn when you’ve been through the tough times and you discover they aren’t so tough after all.”
Do you have courage to face your giants today? What will it take to step into the tension of who you are and who you are becoming? Because trust me, your giants will only keep you from becoming who you're intended to be.
Legacy is God's idea. It's about making a difference in the world. If God didn't believe in legacy, He wouldn't have written the Bible; He wouldn't have sent Jesus into the world; He wouldn't have kept those ancient stories in the Bible about Abraham, Isaac and Jacob; He would have never retold the story of Moses or Paul or his disciples. Legacy is God's idea and it's about living into God's legacy as He chooses to let us live our own legacy. When we live in God's legacy, God allows us to create a legacy as an act of worship.
But what keeps us from living or creating a meaningful legacy? I think a lot of it is expectations. Often our expectations about ourselves or what the world tells us a legacy is dwarfs our understanding of what true legacy is all about. Our fears get in the way of actually living out a legacy that we were destined to live. Legacy is about making a difference through the power of Jesus in us. It's not just about our own legacy. It's about leaving a legacy that has Jesus written all over it. Our own personal legacies at the end of the day only matter in light of the greater legacy that God is writing. It's His story, and we get to be part of it.
Last month Chris and I got a chance to talk about Legacy at Epic Spring Retreat. We got to share about what this concept means and what it means to live out of the legacy God has placed us in. God doesn't have expectations of us, rather he is expectant. He doesn't look at us saying, "You better do this or that" but rather he says, "I can't wait for you to believe in how I believe in you. I can't wait to see all the great things I have awaiting for you."
Legacy is about us stepping into God's legacy. Legacy is about believing in a God who wants to create a legacy for us and being caught up in what he is already doing. Legacy is about something beyond ourselves. Legacy can't be created by ourselves but necessarily involves others and in community. Legacy is about others and not just about our own fame and glory. Legacy is God's idea, not ours. We were made to leave a legacy so what legacy are you leaving today?
I love stories. I love a good story! It's exciting to hear, listen, and be part of someone's story, isn't it? But sometimes I wonder if stories are experienced in someone's life so that they can merely go and tell about it. Rather than living an authentic story behind closed doors, I sometimes wonder if stories are sought after simply to be able to tell an applauding audience about it. I know that makes me sick to my stomach but how often do I do that in my life? How often am I hunting for stories without quickly trying to find the teaching moment or point? Part of the reason I don't really do this if I'm honest is because I have a bad memory. But the reality is, sometimes God invites us into stories in order for us to have an experience with him, just him, not with everyone else on Facebook or in your up-and-coming blog. I think that's part of the challenge. Can we live great stories--incredibly abundant stories--without having to ever share about them? What would our world look like if we started focusing on living great stories rather than trying to tell about them?
As I sit here in front of my computer screen, I ask myself the same question: What are the stories I'm living right now that I live only so I can tell someone else about it? What are those things? Am I actually doing it because I want to spotlight it or make a cool video or something like that? Even as someone who makes videos, I have found myself trying to capture the moment rather than letting the moment transform all of who I am.
Today, I am invited to live a great story. Every moment of every day is meant to be lived to it's fullest. When I eat, when I rest, when I write, when I fail. Every moment of every day is a great story, whether we have the opportunity to boast or brag about it.
Then why don't I live like that? Why do I only live courageously when I'm about to tweet about it? Why don't I live like I mean it when I don't have a means to communicate it? These are the questions I find myself asking this morning.