Facebook Stalking Your One True Career

Open app. 

Photo populates. Video streams.

“Hmm… That looks interesting.” 

[Click, click, LIKE

Scroll > [Click, click, STOP]

“Hmm… she’s cute.” 

[Click profile to see more] 

“I wonder if she’d go on a date with me?” 

[X out] 



This happens over and over and over again, every hour of every day, leaving no trace behind. And our voyeuristic addiction has made a monster out of us in every way especially when it comes to finding our “one true career”. That’s right… Career Lust

Have you ever heard these voices in your head? 

“I wish I didn’t have to go to work at 8am. She’s self-employed so she can work in her PJ’s whenever she wants. Humph… Must be nice.”

“His job looks ridiculous. He gets paid 3x more than me and he has a ‘work trip’ to Italy. How’d he land that gig?” 

“I hate sitting in traffic! It’s the worst…” 

“You get unlimited time off, free food, and you have a ping pong table in your office? What?” 

In a recent Gallup update, studies show that 71% of millennials are not engaged or actively disengaged at work. That means 7 out of 10 millennials reading this blog might actively hunting for another job right now, or at least they’re day-dreaming about it. Not only that, 50% of millennials plan to be with another company a year from now. YIKES! [Click Here for reference] 

Talk about career fragility. 

So how did we get here? 

Well for starters, career awareness has exploded in the last few decades. Google, LinkedIn, social media and digital job boards have given us a wellspring of information at our fingertips. This is both good and bad. Our eHarmony approach to career hunting has left us fragmented in our current state of career development. We’re not satisfied with the present because that “perfect career” seems to be just on the other side where the grass seems to be a little greener. 

Another reason we struggle with career discontentment is because most millennials grew up believing the optimistic, yet fraudulent predilection that “we can be anything we want to be if we try hard enough.” I blame our parents for that… Just kidding. But in all honesty, when we grow up thinking we can do anything, get paid anything and be anywhere, we suffer from career anxiety. Either we are paralyzed by our inability to perform or paralyzed by the countless options and opportunities. So do we do? We quickly download the next “dating app”, hoping that our free 30-day trial will buy us enough time to move on to the “next one”. 

Finally, we struggle with career envy because we’re constantly on the hunt for our “One True Career”. We’ve bought the tall tale that behind the profile picture of perfection exists a dream job to satisfy our void of career accomplishment and job satisfaction. The “swipe left” or “swipe right” modus operandi has left a generation of people rarely satisfied with their existing work circumstances. 

What now? 

According to Gallup, one way to alleviate career metastasis is for managers to communicate and convey care about the millennials’ long-term plans. And that goes beyond their employees staying in their own company. The best leaders develop talent whether they decide to stay in that company or not! Develop millennials with no strings attached!

But it’s not all on the managers. The saying’s true that most people leave managers, not companies, but millennials are adults now and we have to choose our own destiny, not look for a handout. Here’s our responsibility: 

  1. Have a long-term game in mind when it comes to career. Just cause you went on a date once doesn’t mean she’s the one. Relax… Every job, every company, every opportunity builds on the next so you don’t have to nail it right away or the first time around. 
  2. Instead of daydreaming about tomorrow, live right now! The FOMO-mentality kills every opportunity to succeed in the moment. Your current employer is a future reference somewhere else, so don’t screw it up! 
  3. Gratitude is the antidote for discontentment. Instead of complaining about what you don’t have, try being grateful for what you do have. Maybe it’s a degree, a job that puts food on the table, or the ability to have PTO. Be grateful for your network and the ability to have resources to job hunt. Embodying an attitude of gratitude is medicine to Facebook stalking your one true career.